Managing your anger using emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence and anger management

Emotional intelligence has many possible definitions. One of them is the rational way of channeling your emotions into the correct channels instead of venting them randomly on the first victim you find.

For instance, if someone had a bad day at work while driving back home and then he yelled at a driver on the road only because he was driving slowly then its not an emotionally intelligent action.

Managing your anger using emotional intelligence

When you think in an emotionally intelligent way you will be able to realize that the driver wasn't driving slowly on intention but instead he might be afraid of driving too fast.

Once you start to create excuses for people using this intelligent way of thinking you will be able to manage your anger in a better way.

Here is another example for using emotional intelligence to manage your anger. Suppose that you had a real bad day and then the same situation happened (another driver was driving slowly).

How to be emotionally intelligent

What's the difference between a person who losses his temper and a person who manages to control it?

whats the difference between a person who knows how to deal with people and a person who usually messes things up?

What's the difference between someone who can't break a habit and a person who understands the reasons behind his habit and so breaks it?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to take the right decisions even when you are under the effect of a certain emotion. Learning how to develop emotional intelligence will help you escape from tons of problems that would have happened if you were to take emotional decisions.

Emotional intelligence and self understanding

Some people eat because they feel Hungry while others eat because they feel bad and so want to change their hormonal levels through food!!

If the second group of people didn't understood why they are eating they might never manage to lose weight. Emotional intelligence in this case would be understanding the real reasons behind their food addiction.

Emotional intelligence and understanding others

The other side of emotional intelligence is understanding other people and their behavior.

Few days ago i was with my newly made friends at Lebanon and then one of them started shouting and screaming at us because we left her behind. One of our friends thought that she is aggressive, bad tempered and mad while in fact she was just insecure.

The girl was not feeling safe to be left behind in a country that is new to her and that's why she started shouting.

Emotional intelligence is all about understanding the real reason behind people's behavior instead of judging them without thinking.

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